Looking back to 2012 when I posted the original article about misogyny of OKCupid, I'm amazed--at that time, there was almost no public information exposing this site's practices--but look at what we have now. A curageous and determined stream of people came out into the open and published blogs and sites allowing to publicize and alert public to the faces of internet harassers, making these to think twice next time they want to bother anyone.
On other sites, people spoke out openly about misogyny pervading the "dating sites", which are geared to male audience and are designed, implemented and run by males. The very design of these dating sites is degrating to women--from women not being able to avoid reading messages sent to them, to women not being able to control access to their profiles and guard themselves from deranged harassers, to women being silenced when they talked back to abusers (when they refused to be victims obediently accepting the hatred promoted by these sites), to objectifying, dehumanizing ads forced on women by these sites). Finally, the Siren, a dating site by women and for women, where women can control who can access their profiles is now in the making.
Not only individual vigilates, but mass media sources began noticing misogynist practices of OKCupid and other dating sites--from small to big outlets, many articles appeared that spoke the truth --though not the full truth was discussed at all times, as if people still fear to admit to themselves how horrible sexism on these sites is and how profound of destructive impact it can have on lives. A major media source had exposed OKCupid "moderator" practices--private individuals who read emails of other, unsuspecting, people. Such "moderators" often targeted women who verbally protested harassment and responded back to harassers, punishing them and keeping the sickos on the site. It is very easy to implement automation that would moderate emails filtering out those that use prophanities or abusive working and, yet, OKCupid was never interested in that. Of course--because the majority of OKCupid usres are males and OKCupid was afraid to make it "less interesting" by banning prophanities. Instead it had an army of moderators, who were reading people's private correspondence, while doing little to nothing to reduce the level of hateful mail directed at women on their site, as was evidenced by the sheer volume of that mail.
OKCupid had published an attack on Mozilla CEO for his past anti-gay political donation...amazingly, at the same time, while proclaiming to be defenders of human rights, OKCupid forgot of its own role of consistently promoting discrimination of women and profiting from harassment that hurt thousands of women daily. A woman was not much of a human in their eyes and their incredible hypocrisy was evident.
One would think that OKCupid would learn from all the negative exposure and try to make steps to mediate the situation. One would think they'd realize the fact that numerous sites, starting from Tinder, are right behind them, getting ready to put OKCupid in the dumpster of sad history and one would think that this would motivate OKCupid to improve their strategies towards female users.
But no...Recently, OKCupid product engineers came up with a new spit in the face of women who use their site: they now forcefully pop the message, into the face of the user, leaving no option to NOT read the receiving message (when one clicks on a profile of a person who contacted them). Some people figured out long ago that one simply should avert eyes from the text of the messages on that mostly abusive site, look at the profile and move on when something is "off" about said profile, without exposing themselves to dirt that is often found in the messages. But OKCupid doesn't give up...it came up with the new way to literally force a trash dump onto a person.
A piece of advice: draw a curtain over a cesspool of filth and desperation that "dating sites, including OKCupid, are and look at the bright world away from computer screens. Don't let this steal a second of precious life time.
(we all know who that is... need I say more. Ah, the possibilities opened by online dating)